If you’re feeling low in self-confidence, it could be possible to make small changes to change it. It may not seem like it at times, but your self-confidence is in your hands. However, you do have to rely on others to increase your self-confidence too. But if you believe you’re not very smart, are not competent, not very smart, or are listening to nasty comments online, etc. That can all be changed.
Regardless of the naysaying of others, you can become someone who can pursue what they want and you deserve respect along the way.
Ler’s have a look at some of the things that may help below:
This may seem like a really obvious one, however, it’s amazing how much of a difference a bath, shower, shave, a new mushroom brown hair colour or facemask can do for your self-confidence and feeling about your self-image. Whether it’s a routine appointment at the hairdresser’s, a glass of wine with a pampering session at the weekend, or simply shaving your legs, they all go a long way to making you feel better, happier, and more confident. Everyone will be different, but everyone will have something in this department that makes them feel good.
Often if you make an effort you feel good about yourself. It doesn’t mean that you need to get dressed up, it just means making yourself presentable. Put on clean clothes, iron them, and use nice fabric softener. If you drop something down you, get changed before you go out, you may be surprised how much a difference it can make. For some dressing nice will mean wearing a nice dress and some heels, for others it will be a matching gym outfit for their daily workout, it doesn’t matter which it is, it’s individual to you.
Think About Your Self-Image
Everyone goes through times when they doubt their self-image, and it’s very easy for someone to tell you not to worry or that your insecurities are invalid. Our self-image often means a lot to us, and we all have a mental image of ourselves. If it’s not a very good image, the best thing you can do is try to change it, and try to identify the reasons why you may feel like it. You can then find ways to tackle it.
Yes, this can sometimes be easier said than done, however, it can be possible to swap negative thoughts for more positive ones. If you do, great things could happen. Instead of thinking things like ‘ I’m slow at running’ or ‘ I’m never going to be good at that’ think ‘I am taking steps to keep active’ and ‘ I’m trying hard at something new’. If you haven’t tried forcing yourself to think positive and switch your thoughts, it’s certainly worth a try. Although stopping negative thoughts may be difficult to start with, the more you practice swapping them for positives the easier it will become and you may even find yourself doing it naturally.
Get To Know You
One of the first things you should do if you want to boost your self-confidence gets to know yourself. When you go into battle, you need to know the enemy as well as possible, and if your confidence is low, you are often the number one enemy. Even though there may be external effects, ultimately your self-image and confidence are from you.
Try writing a journal about yourself, and about the way you think about yourself each day. Analyze it and then note down all of the good things about yourself, and most importantly remember all the things you like! Don’t think about your limitations, and practice being positive, they are probably not real limitations and just ones that you are allowing to be there. If you start to take the time to understand yourself you may find that you see a pattern of when your confidence is lower and better. You can then start to do the activities that make you feel more confident.
Be Generous And Kind
This may seem a little corny, however, being kind to others and generous to you and your time will lead to you improving your self-image. If you start to be nice you are bound to start to feel good about who you are as a person, and know that you are a good person. It can work wonders on yoru self-confidence.
It can be hard to be confident in yourself when you don’t think you will do well. But you can help yourself to beat that feeling by being as prepared as possible. If you think about like an exam if you haven’t studied you’re not as confident as you are if you have prepared and studied hard. So, prepare yourself for life too. This definitely works hand in hand with getting to know yourself. If you have started to keep a journal, you will be able to prepare for the times when you know you are feeling less confident.
Know Your Principles And Live Them
Think about what your principles in life are. If you don’t have any you may feel like your life is a bit directionless. For most people, it’s being a good person, always putting in a good amount of effort, and being there for those who you love and care for. Think carefully about your principles, you may not have given them much thought, but if you put some time to thinking about them, you may be surprised how important they are once you take the time to note them and take notice of them.
It makes a huge difference in the way you feel when you remember to stand tall and proud instead of slouching. When you remind yourself to stand tall and straight, you will feel better about yourself. Think about holding your head to the sky (without looking pompous) and you will feel more confident and ready to take on anything.
Set Small Goals And Achieve Them
Set yourself one small goal at a time. People often make the mistake of aiming for the moon, and then when they don’t succeed, they become discouraged. Instead, aim for something more achievable that will get you on your way to your larger goals. The best thing to do is set small goals that you know are achievable and then, well, do them. The more you start to complete the smaller goals, the more you will feel confident to tackle the larger goals.
Change Small Bad Habits
Try changing a small habit. It doesn’t need to be a big one, like stopping smoking. Just a little one, like starting to write things down, or being on time. Maybe drinking a glass of water when you wake up? Aim for something small that you know you will be able to do, do it for just a month, and once you have done this it will be a good habit, in the place of a bad one.
This may seem like another simple and tedious one, however, it works. You will find that you instantly feel instantly better. Much like laughing makes you laugh. It will also help you to be kinder to others. Just a small thing like a smile can have a massive chain reaction. It’s certainly not a waste of time or energy.
Gratitude goes a long way, especially if you are grateful for what you have in life. Especially for what others have given you. It’s very humbling and it can also make you feel positive. In turn, this can make you feel more confident and
Exercise seems to appear in every single list. Exercise can be empowering, and yes, it will make you feel better about yourself. Not because it will aid weight loss, but because it’s a way to free your mind and get happy endorphins flowing through your brain. Take a walk a few times each week, or go for a run, you will soon see the benefits.
This is different to exercise. You are always better off doing something over doing nothing. Of course, doing something might lead to mistakes, but that’s part of normal life. It’s how u humans learn. We will never get better without mistakes. So, get off your bum and keep active.
Do Something You’ve Been Procrastinating On
People who are feeling a little self-conscious or lack confidence often have lists of things they need to complete but it feels slike hurdle. Have a look at your to-do list that has been sitting there for a while and think about tackling the tasks. Do it first thing when you get up, this way it’s out of the way. You will feel great and refreshed.
These small changes will help to boost your confidence. You don’t need to tackle them all at once, just pick one or two to start with and keep adding to you accomplished tasks. How do you help yourself to feel more confident? Please share them in the comment below.